• nccheungg

My Journey With Friendship


Even though this year may have been a bit terrible, one good thing that has come from this is that I learned many things about friendship. In the past years, I have always tried to make things work with people from the past despite how difficult it was. I was always the one that started the conversation or tried to catch up with them on what was going on in their life and that was the very issue. It has always been me and they never text me first which makes me feel like I wasn’t worth people’s time. This year I learned that if friendships are not met to be, it's not met to be.

It's not your fault if something doesn’t work out. Instead of trying to make things work with people, you should just remember the good memories that you had with them and move on. Holding something in and trying to make things work will just make you feel worse at the end of the day. You should never change or try to be someone else just to make people like you. Instead you should embrace who you are and find other people that are like you. I think that it took me a really long time to figure this out because I am an introverted person who has a hard time making friends. Throughout elementary and middle school I have been with the same group of people, and I never really got along with anyone until 7th and 8th grade. I got along with a close group of people who I thought would be my friends forever and nothing would break us apart. They were the people I needed the most and relied on through the hard times during that period of my life.

When I got to high school everything changed. Everyone went their separate ways and I was left confused. I think that I became such an introverted person because I hate change and I wanted to keep things the same as they were before. Along the way, I met some new people that I became close with from our common interest. Even though not all friendships or people you meet last, you learn many lessons and things from them which you can bring on to your next chapter in life and you should just leave it at that.

Change is good and is needed in everyone’s life. Becoming more involved in school will help you meet and make better friends that will last longer because you will find common interests. Even if this isn’t relevant in your life, there may be other things that you have been holding back and haven't thought about. Taking time to sit down and reflect on what has happened this year will overall help your mental health because it's better to start fresh rather than to dwell on things of the past.